Self-care is not a reward. Self-care is a care provided “for you, by you.” It’s about identifying your own needs and taking steps to meet them. Self-care is about taking proper care of yourself and treating yourself as kindly as you treat others.
If you picture your life like a multi-tier cake with the bottom tier being self-care and the remainder tiers above being everything else: kids, relationship, family, work, success etc. Put simply, if you don’t maintain the integrity of the bottom tier of the cake (your self-care) then everything else is going to topple over.